Know the answer before you pursue your next relationship. Start your relationship off well by avoiding mixed signals and vague conversations. It’s best to talk about dreams for the future before you’re caught in a relationship that doesn’t accommodate your goals, lifestyle, or family plans.
Before you even go on that first date, be honest with yourself about what you’re looking for, and initiate conversations that will help determine if the person you’re pursuing shares similar values. Can you talk about life issues, priorities and life goals? Relationships are more about common goals than they are just common interests, so don’t be afraid to “get deep” on dates.
Not only will you have something to talk about but you’ll also pique his interest in you.
As a shiksa you’ll also need to learn typical yiddish words that Jews often use in everyday English conversation.
He still logs onto JDate every now and then, and I know because I am spying. What is the likelihood a Jewish guy will leave you because you are non-Jewish? I do not want to keep being with him if down the line he will just leave me for a Jewish girl. Which means that 50% of Jewish men marry outside our faith. There are a lot of possibilities, and each intermarried couple comes up with its own internal compromises.
His parents are rather conservative I believe, and he is a daddy’s boy. But until this guy takes his profile down, declares himself your boyfriend, and tells you he loves you, I don’t think you have very much to worry about, my dear.
(OK, so we do have overbearing Jewish mothers, but they don’t call nagging us about grand-kids and asking if we’re wearing a sweater—well, maybe around Chanukah.) Amidst all the pain and strife of our world today shines the beauty of multiculturalism, and being to date people of different cultures is a wonderful experience indeed.
No matter how your man looks at Judaism--as a religion, a race, or a culture--know that conversion to another religion loses that connection.
He is the first real guy I have been in a relationship with. We’ve been together for several months and I can sense his hesitancy about me…and I am also hesitant of him. There is statistical evidence on how many Jewish men insist on marrying Jewish – and that number is around 50%. Maybe he spends three years with you and falls in love with you. Maybe you don’t need to convert, but you’re open to raising the kids Jewish.
Jewish families embrace their heritage and your Jewish man is very likely to want to share this with you.
Traditional Jewish holidays, like Yom Kippur in October, start the day before, at sundown, and continue until sundown of the actual day.
Chutzpah, goy, klutz, mentsh, oy vey, shlep, schmmoze, schtick and tuches are common words you are likely to hear.
Jewish men who are respectful of their religion and faith gratify in tradition, especially tradition that involves family and good food.